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Dear Future Wife™: Will You Be My Sugar, Mama?

Now that I have your attention!

It’s not what you think; I don’t want your money!

I don’t want an enabler!

I don’t want you to replace the role of a mother!

I just want the mentality of a Sugar Mama!

Imagine the thought process of a sugar mama, now take away the money.

I want that type of support.

I want to experience genuine interest in me and my dreams.

I don’t want to live off of you.

I appreciate the fact that you wouldn’t allow it.

Don’t give blindly.

I will not let you do all the work!

That isn’t the vision of what a man, provider, husband looks like.

This has zero to do with dependency on you doing everything while I figure out what I want to do with my life.

I will not approach you without my plan in motion and ability to be self-sufficient.

I will not pursue you without my vision.

I will not look at you as a meal ticket.

I am not a mama’s boy looking to be supported by a woman.

I acknowledge that you have that ability but that isn’t my draw to you.

I applaud everything that you have accomplished.

I applaud your success.

I applaud your ability to be financially independent as a direct result of your hard work.

I am not looking to live off of that hard work and you shouldn’t let me.

With that being said, I am a MAN and I still need/want your Sugar, Mama.

I still want your support.

I want the concept of a sugar mama but without money.

I want you to support me emotionally.

Before I ask you to respect me, I will give you something to respect.

I will respect you as well.

I may need you to just rub my back in silence.

I may need you to lay on my shoulder to let me know, you’re here.

I may need you to put your head on my lap reassuring me that you will be here.

I need you to be my biggest fan.

I desire the push from my woman.

I watched other women cheer on their men and I want that!

Sometimes I may need encouragement from you with phrases like “you got this babe”.

I can push myself but it feels much better when I hear you say “You can do it”.

I love hearing “You have done it before so there isn’t anything to be afraid of”.

Your confidence in me is the sugar I need.

I am not afraid of your honest feedback, give me sugar.

Being my biggest fan shows that you really love me and want what is best for us, give me sugar.

With that being said, don’t let me be unrealistic, give me sugar.

Correct me when you know the dream isn’t something I should be pursuing, give me sugar.

If I am still trying to rap at 30 plus; if I am focused on being an entrepreneur but unwilling to put in the work and if I am unwilling to work somewhere else while pursuing my a dream, hold me accountable.

Correct me if I am going overboard on everything.

Support looks like encouraging sustainability for myself.

Let me break some of it down.

I want kisses.

I want hugs.

I want that sugar.

I want you to support my realistic plans, dreams and visions.

I want you to challenge me to explain my plans, dreams and visions.

I want you to have my back the same way you want me to have yours.

I want the sweetness only you can bring.

I want to hear the sweetness of your voice at home when I have just taken on the world.

I want to see the sweetness in your smile.

I want to be the reason you smile.

This is the sugar I am looking for.

Will you give me some sugar?

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Bashea Williams, LCSW-C

Paul Bashea (Bah-Shay) Williams, LCSW-C, LICSW is described as an Intellectual Emotionalist. Someone who understands what a man thinks and what a woman feels. Helping the two meet and have common ground by encouraging emotion and logic to agree. He is a dedicated father, Licensed Certified Social Worker- Clinical, Relationship Specialist and Writer. He works with at-risk youth and specializes in marriage and family, couples, and individual counseling. He provides relationship advice to individuals and couples. He writes about life, love, and fatherhood. His writing, acting, and public speaking has been featured on panels throughout the country, Huffington Post and several other popular websites, national syndicated radio shows, television and movies. Bashea first started writing to first hold himself accountable and get a better understanding of people's hearts and minds. He loves how relationships work and operate. He strives to help others through his words. Bashea Williams has provided valuable insight on relationships, motivation, and parenting on a variety of panels and conferences. He is highly recruited and his work is valued as measurable and complete. He has years of providing counseling services for singles, couples, youth, and families. Bashea Williams has become well-known for his Trademarked Dear Future Wife series that serves as a man's guide and a woman's reference. His goal is to influence healthy relationships by having compromise, consideration, and an understanding of how people interact. You can follow his work at BasheaWilliams.com, BasheaWilliams on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.

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