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Dear Future Wife: Your Flaws Make You Perfect

What I have to say to you has been on my heart.

I want you to know how valuable you are!

I want you to know you deserve and are worth more love than you can imagine receiving.

Never settle for less than greatness regardless of what your past has done to you.

You are not tarnished!  You are not damaged! You are not less than!

I say this because your perfectly flawed energy seeps through your mask of having it all together.

I don’t want you to paint me a picture of perfection.

I want you to know that your flaws make you perfect for me.

I am not looking to compare you to what everyone else expects.  I am not looking to compare you to what everyone rejects.  I am falling in love with everything I see and respect.

Just wanted to tell you that.

I want you to know that you deserve and are worth more than any love you can imagine.

Even when I come up short, I will work to redeem myself.  Or at least, please you with my efforts.

I promise to take my time, genuinely love you, and be in love with you.  I promise your past is not a hindrance of our future.

Whatever secrets you have, let the way I love you put you in position to release them from what’s holding you back.

A rose can bloom in concrete so loosen up and let my love feed your flower at the root.

I know it’s scary to be open.  I know it’s uncomfortable to say, “this is the true me”.  I know it’s terrifying to say while crying “you broke me down, are you happy, here I am”.

Those pieces about you that you feel are broken, allow parts of me to be the tools to fix.  Those holes in your armor, use me to fill.  Take parts of me to smooth over your perceived blemishes.

My truth is that you are not damaged or tarnished.  You are perfectly imperfect.

I couldn’t imagine someone without flaws.  I couldn’t imagine trying to hug a perfect person imperfectly.  I could not imagine being disingenuous because of what they expect as perfect.

I am flawed, vulnerable and ready to trust you with everything I can think of.

I am asking you to meet me where my smile meets your frown.  I want you to meet me where your strength meets my weakness and tears. Where my bravery  and superhero meets your fears.

Balance.

I am not interested in your past holding us back.
I am interested in your past helping us work through our present and lay a foundation for our future.
I am not scared of anything you have been through.
When you tell me who hurt you, I want to help heal you.
I know I may not be able to do that myself but rest assure, my thoughts, prayers, and efforts will be with what you need and want.
I pray you realize how valuable you are.
ALL OF YOU!
Whether you accept it or believe it.  You are my Queen.  You are royalty.
I promise to be everything I ask of you!  I will protect your heart as you do mine!
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Bashea Williams, LCSW-C

Paul Bashea (Bah-Shay) Williams, LCSW-C, LICSW is described as an Intellectual Emotionalist. Someone who understands what a man thinks and what a woman feels. Helping the two meet and have common ground by encouraging emotion and logic to agree. He is a dedicated father, Licensed Certified Social Worker- Clinical, Relationship Specialist and Writer. He works with at-risk youth and specializes in marriage and family, couples, and individual counseling. He provides relationship advice to individuals and couples. He writes about life, love, and fatherhood. His writing, acting, and public speaking has been featured on panels throughout the country, Huffington Post and several other popular websites, national syndicated radio shows, television and movies. Bashea first started writing to first hold himself accountable and get a better understanding of people's hearts and minds. He loves how relationships work and operate. He strives to help others through his words. Bashea Williams has provided valuable insight on relationships, motivation, and parenting on a variety of panels and conferences. He is highly recruited and his work is valued as measurable and complete. He has years of providing counseling services for singles, couples, youth, and families. Bashea Williams has become well-known for his Trademarked Dear Future Wife series that serves as a man's guide and a woman's reference. His goal is to influence healthy relationships by having compromise, consideration, and an understanding of how people interact. You can follow his work at BasheaWilliams.com, BasheaWilliams on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.

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  1. Natasha Cozart 6 Jun 2016 Reply

    I’m floored by your honest expression…like a modern-day Song of Solomon. I’m grateful because your words evoke healing, along with a slightly jealous admiration for the lady who has captured your heart. Thank you for sharing this journey with us. Many blessings to you, the boys, and your future wife!

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