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Dear Future Wife: Can I Be Vulnerable?

A man’s armor is thicker than steel.
To his detriment, once penetrated, it’s never quicker to heal.

Layers of protection make it harder to reveal.

The softer side, often times, not willing to deal.

Strong, battle-tested approved with a seal.

That’s why we show straight face, until it’s real.

We can’t imagine you understanding what we consider as done deal.

We want to be vulnerable with you understanding that doesn’t mean we are weak.

We want to be able to depend on your softness to lessen the blows of our fall.

We want to be able to share our darkest moment, trusting you to be a light.

We want to be better for you despite being the worst representative of what society describes us as being cliche’.

We want to be what you need, not what’s popular and caters to your desire.

We want to show you that is necessary to keep you secure in your walk which is the complete understanding of…

“We Are Our Lady’s Man”

We want you to share the moment and expression “you succeeded in a position of finding me” when we failed.

We want to know that on our days of external struggle and coming up short of pleasing the world will not translate into internal failure.

We don’t want to compete at home.

We don’t want to compete with the naturalization of a man’s order.

A man’s “end all”.

A man’s verbal “be all”.

We do not desire additional competition.

Please don’t compare our rareness to something that isn’t consistent with your desire or what is described as the normal man.

We continue to switch to a pleasing position as a reminder of keeping all emotionally occupied and happy.

There are many facets of a woman that we ignore and we acknowledge the work needed.

We put ourselves in position to apologize.

A mistake of apologizing to make you okay is often made to keep the environment quiet.

We take back the thought of saying things we really didn’t mean.

We embrace the thought of enjoying the moment but absorb the truth of a lifetime.

We want to say hello being emotionally-naked and offer it with no surprises.

How will you take that?

How is your response shaped by your experience?

How is your response shaped by what society has told you what we look like?

How will you accept the expression without being influenced by what a man looks like and described by a failed representative?

Our connection with being vulnerable is tied to trust in you….

Did we make a mistake???

Can we say “we need your essence without you telling us we would not succeed without your presence?”

Can we tell you “we are afraid”?

Can we say “We don’t know”.

Can we be silent and hope it works out?

I am a bodyguard strong for you and I need you to be “bulletproof” supportive for me.

Can we say “I failed and I am sorry” without you calling us sorry?

Let’s talk……………………

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Bashea Williams, LCSW-C

Paul Bashea (Bah-Shay) Williams, LCSW-C, LICSW is described as an Intellectual Emotionalist. Someone who understands what a man thinks and what a woman feels. Helping the two meet and have common ground by encouraging emotion and logic to agree. He is a dedicated father, Licensed Certified Social Worker- Clinical, Relationship Specialist and Writer. He works with at-risk youth and specializes in marriage and family, couples, and individual counseling. He provides relationship advice to individuals and couples. He writes about life, love, and fatherhood. His writing, acting, and public speaking has been featured on panels throughout the country, Huffington Post and several other popular websites, national syndicated radio shows, television and movies. Bashea first started writing to first hold himself accountable and get a better understanding of people's hearts and minds. He loves how relationships work and operate. He strives to help others through his words. Bashea Williams has provided valuable insight on relationships, motivation, and parenting on a variety of panels and conferences. He is highly recruited and his work is valued as measurable and complete. He has years of providing counseling services for singles, couples, youth, and families. Bashea Williams has become well-known for his Trademarked Dear Future Wife series that serves as a man's guide and a woman's reference. His goal is to influence healthy relationships by having compromise, consideration, and an understanding of how people interact. You can follow his work at BasheaWilliams.com, BasheaWilliams on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.

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  1. Calandra

    I love that Paul!! That’s all I want from a man. I know it’s challenging, but I’m very patient…especially if I’m interested in the person.

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