In order for me to really understand how to love you, I decided to pay attention to how your love communicates.  You have five different ways you speak lovingly.  I want to learn how to understand every word your heart speaks.

I just ask that you speak clearly.  Speak from the heart of love and not of protection.  Be honest so that when I communicate back, I am loving you in words you can agree with.

Let’s communicate:

Words of Affirmation

I will compliment you on who you are while building you up.  I will make sure to wake you up with a praise of how beautiful you are.  I will make sure I tell you goodnight with the goal of initiating your dreams of us forever.  These words will be natural and genuine without a goal of gaining anything selfishly.  I am making sure I influence your happiness.  Random I miss you, an unsolicited I love you, a thought of you followed up by “You are beautiful”.

I know how sensitive you are to my words and I don’t want to create insecurity or tear you down in any way.  I want to speak life and not influence the death of who you are.  Because of our love and my role, I will feed you affirming words.  I will speak to your heart!

Quality Time

No cell phone, no social media, no television, no radio, no distractions, nothing but you.  I will leave everything outside of you in a cloud and walk away so that it’s clear to you that I am focused.  It’s your time and nothing else can take away from what you deserve.  You remain scheduled in my daily calendar and I titled it “Her”.  This way the time is yours, the location is “where you are”, the reason is you, the focus is your heart and I will do it aggressively.

I won’t put off the time with you. No rescheduling my love for you.  I will make sure availability is created.

Acts of Service

Relax, I got it.  Let me open the door for you.  I will make you dinner and do the dishes.  Put your feet up and know everything will be taken care of to your liking.  I will wash your car and put gas in it.  What do you need from the store?  The DVR is set to play your favorite television show.  I made coffee, got your book ready, and the room temperature is to your liking.  I brought you a bottle of your favorite wine, started your bath and lit some candles.  Your robe is hanging, only to be put on after I dry you off.

Receiving Gifts

My gifts to you will make sense and be purposeful.  Think about the things you wanted or needed.  Not just shoes or a purse but the gift of effort and consistency.   While in the store, I will say to myself “Dear Future Wife™ likes that” and I will pick it up.  Gifts of reminding you that I care for you and I am thinking about you.  A card for you to read with my words on them.

Physical Touch

Let me have your hand as we walk.  Let our fingers lock as we talk.  Good morning hug with a kiss on the forehead to say have a good day.  A shoulder massage.  Rubbing your arm.  Lay on my chest while I wrap my arm across yours.  I need your hand again as I lead you to the bedroom…………………

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