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Dear Future Wife™: Secure In My Arms

I need you to be secure.

I need you to know that the same things that attracted you are also attractive to other women.

That does not mean their attraction will lead me to where we meet.

That does not mean I am attracted to their attraction.

I need you to know my efforts and how they are spread, does not decrease your value.

I need you to know my attention will never exist outside of what we want for each other and our relationship.

I need you to know that other women will inspire me.

Wait, before you allow insecurity to run wild in your thoughts and emotions.

Know that no matter where my inspiration comes from, you will receive my dedication.

The beginning of me existed before we met and I want the ending of me to expire while we are meeting.

Every single day will be a meeting of US.

I will be loved by others, but only LOVE ON YOU.

Me saying hello to other women does not mean I’m telling you or my promises to us GOODBYE.

I am not inviting anyone past the security of our relationship.

This relationship is V.I.P. and the P is singular.  You are the person very important to me.

The ideas behind my thoughts may not always derive from you.

They may come from other women.

That does not mean you are lacking in any area of our lives together.

That just means they said or did something that sparked a new way for me to please you.

I need you to be secure enough to know, believe and feel that my passion exists in making you in awe of me.

I am not interested in an “awe” of interest from others.

Allow me to show you how rare you are to me.

How there isn’t anyone comparable and how I will continue to work to keep you as my wife.

You will always know the difference between me saying the words I love you, by the way, I LOVE YOU.

I accept the responsibility of influencing your security in our relationship.

Allow my arms to secure you from anything that may create doubt and everything does not belong in our relationship.

You are secure in my arms.

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Bashea Williams, LCSW-C

Paul Bashea (Bah-Shay) Williams, LCSW-C, LICSW is described as an Intellectual Emotionalist. Someone who understands what a man thinks and what a woman feels. Helping the two meet and have common ground by encouraging emotion and logic to agree. He is a dedicated father, Licensed Certified Social Worker- Clinical, Relationship Specialist and Writer. He works with at-risk youth and specializes in marriage and family, couples, and individual counseling. He provides relationship advice to individuals and couples. He writes about life, love, and fatherhood. His writing, acting, and public speaking has been featured on panels throughout the country, Huffington Post and several other popular websites, national syndicated radio shows, television and movies. Bashea first started writing to first hold himself accountable and get a better understanding of people's hearts and minds. He loves how relationships work and operate. He strives to help others through his words. Bashea Williams has provided valuable insight on relationships, motivation, and parenting on a variety of panels and conferences. He is highly recruited and his work is valued as measurable and complete. He has years of providing counseling services for singles, couples, youth, and families. Bashea Williams has become well-known for his Trademarked Dear Future Wife series that serves as a man's guide and a woman's reference. His goal is to influence healthy relationships by having compromise, consideration, and an understanding of how people interact. You can follow his work at BasheaWilliams.com, BasheaWilliams on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.

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  1. Renella 15 May 2016 Reply

    Wowwwwwww this article made me re-evaluate reactions I have had in some situations pertaining to relationship. I had never heard it put this way before. Admiration of another woman does not devalue me in the eyes of the man who views me in the way you described the woman in your life in the article. Oh my God I just had an emotional orgasm, excuse my expression but this is the best way to describe the revelation I received here. Again thanks for sharing.

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