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Dear Future Wife ®: Without Guilt

I want to be honest.

I can’t wait until we say “I do”.

I feel bottled up inside and I am ready to release everything I was designed to do.

Designed to please you.

Designed to protect you.

Designed to make sure you are satisfied.

Designed to make sure you are always okay and when you aren’t, I am designed to put in that work to bring you to a better place.

I get in moods that I know are made for a marriage.

I misused them in the past and left myself less than, others greater than, and “us” struggling to find equality.

Those moods are for show but can be somewhat described as:

A mood to look at you and tell you I love you through my eyes.

Tell you I miss you through my lips.

Tell you I want you by a deep breath.

Tell you I will protect you by my hug.

My smile will be your sigh of relief.

My holding of your hand is me guiding you.

Not feeling guilty about possibly holding the wrong hand.

Not feeling guilty for mishandling your trust.

Not feeling guilty… because the connection of our mind, body, and soul will remain forever.

Not feeling guilty about staring at you while you dress.

Not feeling guilty for touching you inappropriately because you are mine and I am yours.

Not feeling guilty for kissing you with enough passion to make you forget all of the bad times.

Not feeling guilty for giving you my heart to hold, my mind to influence, and my soul to to pray for genuinely.

I say genuinely because some pray for you with contingencies.

They will tell you they want you to succeed and do things behind your back that will cause you to bleed.

I want to pray for each other.

Not pray for each other to meet each other’s wants.

But pray for each other’s well-being, trusting that will include us in each other’s happiness.

I don’t want the guilt of performing marital duties during single living.

I don’t want the guilt of disappointing someone because we don’t meet each other’s love.

I don’t want the guilt of sharing my words with someone I am not married to…

Dear Future Wife, our marriage will not be “blah”…

Touching you without guilt.

Loving you without guilt.

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Bashea Williams, LCSW-C

Paul Bashea (Bah-Shay) Williams, LCSW-C, LICSW is described as an Intellectual Emotionalist. Someone who understands what a man thinks and what a woman feels. Helping the two meet and have common ground by encouraging emotion and logic to agree. He is a dedicated father, Licensed Certified Social Worker- Clinical, Relationship Specialist and Writer. He works with at-risk youth and specializes in marriage and family, couples, and individual counseling. He provides relationship advice to individuals and couples. He writes about life, love, and fatherhood. His writing, acting, and public speaking has been featured on panels throughout the country, Huffington Post and several other popular websites, national syndicated radio shows, television and movies. Bashea first started writing to first hold himself accountable and get a better understanding of people's hearts and minds. He loves how relationships work and operate. He strives to help others through his words. Bashea Williams has provided valuable insight on relationships, motivation, and parenting on a variety of panels and conferences. He is highly recruited and his work is valued as measurable and complete. He has years of providing counseling services for singles, couples, youth, and families. Bashea Williams has become well-known for his Trademarked Dear Future Wife series that serves as a man's guide and a woman's reference. His goal is to influence healthy relationships by having compromise, consideration, and an understanding of how people interact. You can follow his work at BasheaWilliams.com, BasheaWilliams on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.

This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Edwidge

    This was a really deep and powerful read! Thank you.

    1. Bashea Williams

      Thank you for reading!

  2. Natasha Cozart

    Wow… I’m speechless. Thank you for sharing so deeply from your heart. These love letters are therapeutic and contagious. This morning, I was feeling somewhat hopeless, but your words have ignited a passion for holy discontent. (Lol) I hope you find her soon!

    1. Bashea Williams

      Thank you, and you are welcome. I am glad you my words resonated with you.

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